Hi, people! I am so excited to share some personal rules that I follow for a better and happier me. I wrote this list in my Journal last May and I happen to scan the list a few days ago. In my notes, I told myself, “Pinky, be happy!” So I’d like to tell you now “_____ (Insert your name here.), be happy!” Do the following:
- Love and be loved!
- Be Positive!
- Trust and be Trustworthy!
- Do not fear something that has not happened or will never happen!
- Respect and be respectable!
- Understand – Communicate – When in doubt, assume the good!
- Be reasonable, calm, and collected!
- Sleep well!
- Eat well!
Let me explain each.
- LOVE AND BE LOVED!
By “be loved,” I also mean be lovable. When I allow love to fill me, I feel lovable and I feel that there is no reason for people to hate me. It does not have to be forced. I don’t have to love other people for them to love me. By being guided by love – love within myself, love for things around me, love for the world, love for mankind, love for humanity, love for life, love for everything good, love for family, love for friends, love for nature, love for anything capable of being loved – I will be lovable and it makes me happier. Because, why hate?
- BE POSITIVE!
Having a task needed to be accomplished? I’ll believe that it will turn out well. Having an important meeting or an interview or a confrontation with anyone? I’ll believe that it will have a good result. Having trouble with something? I’ll believe that it will be over soon because it’s only a test. Having doubt in myself? I’ll believe that I can do it. I allow my mind to trust in the positive outcome and the positive result will just flow naturally. Even when the outcome turned negatively in the past, I’ll still believe in the positivity of the eventuality that after that bad result, it will turn out better the next time. It’s a mindset!
- TRUST AND BE TRUSTWORTHY!
When I trust, I rely on the wisdom, capability, ability, promise, and all other things that another person does or will do. But it’s harder for me to trust someone if I am untrustworthy myself. Being untrustworthy results in being insecure and skeptical in relying trust to another especially if you have broken somebody’s trust before. It makes you think that they will or might do the same so better never ever trust them. However, I follow the rule that if I say I’ll do it, I will do it. If I can’t do it, I will say I can’t do it. If there is a problem, I’ll say the problem. The important thing here is to communicate and not to damage your trustworthiness in the eyes of other people.
- DO NOT FEAR SOMETHING THAT HAS NOT HAPPENED OR WILL NEVER HAPPEN!
When I stop myself from doing the next step to a possible achievement or a future success, just because it might fail, I always tell myself, “What if it will really succeed? What if the thing I feared will never happen? Will I achieve it if I won’t do it or just even try to do it?” Then, I think about it and do it. Because, I am not afraid of a possible success. Are you?
- RESPECT AND BE RESPECTABLE!
When I respect myself and other people, I feel like I place myself in a stage of respect too. Much like trust, I will be undeserving of respect, in the reciprocity of life and in my own conscience, if I am disrespectful. If I want respect, I should respect!
- UNDERSTAND – COMMUNICATE – ASSUME THE GOOD WHEN IN DOUBT!
When confronted with a situation, I don’t judge right away. I try to understand. If I don’t understand, I assume the good of the situation. When it’s hard to understand, I ask or communicate so I will understand.
- BE REASONABLE – CALM & COLLECTED!
I do not want to get upset without a valid reason. If I get upset for no reason or for an imagined reason, I take my upset back. Yes, I swallow it back. But when I can’t swallow it back, I express how I feel in a calm and collected way. I ask myself, “Was I upset for a reason or just too dramatic?” I also trace the cause why I am upset and I try to address the issue with a solution. Because, I don’t want to be upset for good. It’s not tasteful.
When I exercise, I feel a glow from within. It makes me lighter and happier. Because, exercising is just love!
- SLEEP WELL!
When I sleep well, I wake up not sleepy. I can seize the day without yawning and complaining that I need more sleep. Sleeping well also means that I had a good sleeping position with comfortable pillows and blanket and with a room temperature that is not warm-to-the-point-of-sweating and not too cold.
- EAT WELL!
When I eat well, I feel well. Eating well is also important in my low-carb diet and in my health in general. But I am not perfect with my diet, I should say. At least once a week, eating well for me also means enjoying not-so-healthy food for my cheat day. And guess what! It’s cheat day now! So, I’ll eat well! Let’s eat!
Follow any of these rules and I guarantee that you will be happier and brighter than before! Because, happiness is always the goal!
With much love and happiness,